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Alcohol and Sex – Effects of Alcohol on Sexual Activity – Sexual Dysfunction and Alcohol

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Definition Sexual dysfunction
Sexual dysfunction is broadly defined as the inability to fully enjoy sexual intercourse. Specifically, sexual dysfunctions are disorders that interfere with a full sexual response cycle. These disorders make it difficult for a person to enjoy or to have sexual intercourse. While sexual dysfunction rarely threatens physical health, it can take a heavy psychological toll, bringing on depression, anxiety, and debilitating feelings of inadequacy.

Definition Alcoholism
Alcoholism or alcohol dependence is defined by the American Medical Association (AMA) as “a primary, chronic disease with genetic, psychosocial, and environmental factors influencing its development and manifestations.”

Extended Definition Alcoholism

Alcoholism is characterized by:

  • a prolonged period of frequent, heavy alcohol use.
  • the inability to control drinking once it has begun.
  • physical dependence manifested by withdrawal symptoms when the individual stops using alcohol.
  • tolerance, or the need to use more and more alcohol to achieve the same effects.
  • a variety of social and/or legal problems arising from alcohol use.

Why Does Alcohol Affect Sexual Behavior?

Men and women both are more likely to engaged in casual sexual behavior when there is alcohol involved
Alcohol lowers inhibitions about engaging in sexual behaviors
Alcohol increases perceptions of attractiveness for both men and women, further promoting the possibility of engaging in casual sexual behaviors
65% reported alcohol or drugs being involved in their more recent casual sex encounter

How Does Alcohol Affect Sexual Performance and Pleasure?

For men, alcohol use before sex results in DECREASED

  • penis engorgement (hardness)
  • orgasmic intensity
  • overall satisfaction and pleasure

For women, alcohol use before sex results in DECREASED

  • ability to orgasm (and some women may not be able to orgasm at all)
  • orgasmic intensity
  • overall satisfaction and pleasure

Sex and Alcohol on Spring Break: Some Statistics

  • 26% of males and nearly 36% of females failed to use a condom during sex with someone they met on spring break
  • Nearly 50% of the males and 41% of the females reported having consumed alcohol just prior to sex
  • When asked about their alcohol use in connection with their sexual activities, 49% of men and 38% of women reported having sex as a direct result of drinking
  • 75% of all students reported never or rarely using a condom on spring break
  • Students reported their decision were negatively influenced by alcohol or drug use just prior to sexual activity
  • 74% of males and nearly 88% of females reported never or rarely worrying about STDs/HIV, even though they were at risk
  • About 48% of men and women who had sex under the influence regretted the experience.

STDs and Alcohol

Several risk factors for STDs are common when alcohol influences sexual behavior:

  • multiple sex partners
  • engaging in unprotected sex (in other words, sex without a condom)
  • combining substance use with sexual activity
  • Young adults who used alcohol were seven times more likely to have unprotected sex
  • About 23% of sexually active teens and young adults say they have had UNPROTECTED sex because they were using alcohol or drugs at the time
  • Only 28% of young adults said they were concerned about STDs or pregnancy because of sexual intercourse they had while using alcohol or drugs, even though they were at increased risk
  • Oral sex under the influence of alcohol tends to involve less discussion of safe sex practices than without alcohol, thus increasing risk for STD transmission
  • Young adults who used alcohol were twice as likely to have multiple sex partners, a HIGH risk factor for contracting STDs
  • Substance use can cause biological alterations that place a person physically more at risk for an STD infection because alcohol can impair a person’s immune system and the ability to fight off an STD

Sexual Assault: How Is It Related to Alcohol?

  • 20-25% of college women reported some kind of rape (attempted or completed)
  • At least 50% of college students’ sexual assaults are associated with alcohol use
  • 47% of the sexual assaults reported by college men involved alcohol consumption
  • In 81% of the alcohol related sexual assaults both victim and the perpetrator had consumed alcohol
  • When alcohol is involved, survivors are less likely to name the experience “rape”

Effects of alcohol: sexual dysfunction and dry skin

Alcohol has many effects on the human body, from drunkenness or clouding our mental ability and thoughts to thinning of the blood and possibly lowering the risk of heart attack and other cardiovascular related issues.  But did you know that alcohol will also cause sexual dysfunction in both men and women and varying degrees of dry skin (dependent upon age and condition of skin?  The major school of thought on this evolves around hydration.  Alcohol tends to remove water from the body, reducing its hydration levels and actually results in aging of the body’s various organs.  The body needs water to survive and high levels of hydration for optimum performance.

Two areas that are immediately effected by the drop in hydration caused by alcohol are sexual performance and our skin.  For men, any marked drop in hydration reduces the production of sperm and ejaculate in the groin area.  Studies have shown that a drop in sperm and ejaculate will cause a similar drop in sexual desire and arousal.  A study at Yale University by Dr. Brachman has shown that marked drops in hydration cause an increase in various sexual dysfunctions.  “Men produce lower sperm counts and women tend to have an increase in genital dryness and discomfort.  This leads to a marked decrease in sexual desire for both sexes.”  Alcohol will greatly reduce the actual number of sperm produced and the amounts of ejaculate or semen that are produced.

A study on over 17,000 alcoholic men found that after several years of no alcohol 50% of the men  returned to normal erectile functioning, and the other 50% were either partially or completely unable to get an erection, even when sexual desire returned. Alcohol abuse can also be associated with worsening other physical conditions in the body which again are responsible for causing erectile dysfunction. These conditions are diabetes, heart disease and hypertension. While the anti-impotence drugs like Levitra can take care of your erectile dysfunction even in tough conditions, alcohol has the potential of smothering your passion, possibly even permanently.

So it is obvious that proper hydration is essential to sexual performance, function and human reproduction.  But did you also know that another immediate effect of decreased hydration due to alcohol is dry skin and various related and similar skin conditions and problems?  Yes, any marked decrease in the body’s hydration levels will cause the skin to become less pliable and will slow down its repair mechanisms.  This drop in hydration from alcohol will actually age the skin as it will lead to wrinkles, fine lines, crow’s feet, etc… Your skin needs high levels of hydration and you must drink plenty of water every day to maintain this.  Improper hydration of the skin can lead to or actually worsen conditions such as acne, rosacea, shingles, and many other skin only diseases and problems.

Now, it is important to note that there are many more problems caused by improper hydration (dehydration) through alcohol consumption than we have listed here, but these are two immediately effected areas which will also show a marked regeneration and healthiness when proper hydration is restored to the body.  For proper sexual function and healthy skin it is recommended that one drink 8 to 10 glasses of water throughout the day and limit alcohol consumption to one drink per day at most.

UK Case Study: In recent years, it’s become clear that as a country, the UK drinks far too much alcohol. UK is now among the top 10 nations of the world for per capita alcohol consumption.

That’s a worrying statistic, because excessive use of alcohol is very bad for your health – and it doesn’t do your sex life any good either!

Fortunately, in the last few years in UK, national alcohol consumption has fallen a little. Nevertheleass, experts are concerned about the fact that many people – and especially the young – go in for dangerous ‘risk-taking’ sexual behaviour when they’re under the influence of drink.

A particular danger is the phenomenon of ‘beer goggles’, a term which has been invented in recent years to describe the way in which a person whose blood alcohol is high can start seeing others as much more desirable than they really are.

A 2009 study in the British Journal of Psychology showed that men who had taken alcohol were attracted to potential sex partners who wouldn’t have been chosen by them when they were sober.

Alcohol affects people’s sex lives in many ways. We can divide its effects into ‘good’ and ‘bad’.

Good effects of alcohol

Small amounts of alcohol oil the social wheels and reduce shyness – thereby making it easier for people to meet up. It also helps a lot of men and women to relax and chat easily with each other.

Similarly, a little wine or a cocktail will often make a person feel romantic – or perhaps less ‘uptight’ about sex.

alcohol-statisticsAlso, a very small ‘dose’ of alcohol can extend the time that a nervous young man takes before he climaxes – thus combating any slight tendency to come too soon or experience mild premature ejaculation (PE). However, alcohol is definitely not a treatment for this condition.
Bad effects of alcohol

Unfortunately, the list of ‘bad’ effects of alcohol is much longer!

  • Alcohol makes people far more likely to have unwise sex with the wrong person – and therefore to get pregnant, to catch infections, and to embark on affairs that cause marriage break-ups. In fact, booze is the main reason why in 2011, there is a massive demand for the so-called ‘morning-after pill’ (the emergency contraceptive) on Saturday, Sunday and Monday mornings.
  • Alcohol makes people fuddled, so that they don’t take proper contraceptive precautions.
  • Alcohol is bad for the unborn baby – so it should only be taken very sparingly in pregnancy. During 2008, there have been conflicting reports about how safe it is for pregnant women. Some authorities feel that during pregnancy it should be avoided totally. At present we don’t know whether alcohol taken on the night of conception could be bad for the baby.
  • Alcohol is a major cause of impotence (erectile dysfunction). A lot of younger males don’t realise this because they think that booze boosts ‘horniness’. But as Shakespeare says in the Scottish play: ‘It increases the desire, but it takes away the performance.’
  • A lot of men who are hooked on alcohol develop permanent ‘Brewer’s droop’ – and often loss of interest in sex as well.
  • We do not yet know if excessive alcohol use can cause female sexual problems, but on the basis of probabilities it does seem likely that some cases of diminished libido are due to excessive alcohol consumption.

Masturbation FAQs – Question and Answer on Masturbation – Public Survey Revealed

Many teenagers and people when asked questions about masturbation had different perceptions. A few excerpts of the same masturbation survey.

What is masturbation? Is it good or bad?

John: Masturbation is a common practice among teenagers. Masturbation is the stimulation of one’s own sexual organ by hand (or by other means) to ejaculate and get sexual satisfaction. Many youngsters start masturbation at a young age. They don’t know about its consequences are and they continue on this bad practice. Eventually they end up with many problem. Due to the nature of the problem they are not able to discuss it with any one, not even parents. Due to lack of knowledge, those little problems create serious problems in their life esp. in their youth period. Their behavior is changed altogether. Their performance in education is affected.

masturbationgoodorbad-healthpad.infoThey fail to give enough attention to their studies. Their behavior with females becomes somewhat strange and unnatural because they think they are not enough for them. They think that they can never have sex in their life. This creates a lot of frustration in their mind. They tend to satisfy their thirst for sex but they are unable to do so. They think they are in serious kind of disease ( this is mis education ) and try to find out cure in one way or another. They go to hakims to find some cure but they fail to help them. They consult doctors but they are of no help either. Their life is being affected in a bad way and no one no one knows about it. It becomes their only aim in life to find a cure for this problem and they put the rest of his work on stake. They fail to enjoy anything else in life. This creates a lot of space in their mind. Their brain is open to all kind of wrong ideas. They are alone in this fight against their sexual problem and they try to solve it all on their own. Unfortunately our society is not so open to discuss these issues in public. Our parent are shy and do not discuss sex education with their children. I have made this page for those brothers who have fallen into the habit of masturbation. They do not know what it is and how it can affect their health late in their lives. This page is basically to provide sex education to young teenagers from 12 years and above in Pakistan and to the people of the world. If you are at least twelve years old please keep on reading. This page is for you. These pages do not contain any sexually explicit material and is safe for you to read it.

Besides discussing masturbation in detail i will discuss sex education briefly for teenagers. I will try to simplify things by question and answers type format so that the text is to the point and easy to understand.

When does youngster start Masturbation?

Mathew: Youngsters normally discover masturbation at a young age as 12-15. But it various from person to person. The actual date of starting the masturbation in youngsters depends on the family trend. Like in some families younger reach adulthood at the age of 9 and in some they become adults as late as 16. The body trends can be a good indication of a person being adult. Note that younger girls also obtain puberty at the same age. By the way do you know that girls also masturbate? Yes they do!

Is masturbation harmful?

Ismail: This question may not be important to every one esp if you have not started masturbation or you do not do it frequently. However if you are very excited about sex (and masturbation), you should bear in mind that masturbation is harmful. This question is quite controversial because many people including doctors say it is not harmful at all and as a matter of fact they say it is very healthy. But there are a lot of other people like ‘hakims’ and common people who say it is harmful. Knowing the point of views of both the people and being a person who has been affected by it, i can tell you that masturbation is harmful. However i do not want you to get scared of it. The harmful effects of masturbation are slow and spans on a long duration of time. Say if you are masturbating 2 times a day every day for two years, you will get yourself in trouble. Only then will you know that you got some problem because of masturbation. I have mentioned in detail the problems of over masturbation (or too much masturbation) in the left column of the page. Bear in mind that I DO NOT support hakims. If you have already got problems with masturbation, You should consult any doctor.

The harmful effects of masturbation include discharge of semen when u think about girl, reduction in penis size, tapering of penis in the base, reduced erection size, reduced amount of orgasm and the worst of all premature ejaculation. All of these problems are a big problems by themselves but thinking that they all are caused because of too much masturbation, i will say that masturbation is harmful.

malemasturbation-healthpad.infoNow there is a question, i masturbate for a long period of time and am continuing it without any worried and one day i found out that i have all these problems ( that i leek when i think about girls and my penis has shrinked in the base and i ejaculate too early and can not control my self). In my case I was totally ignorant of the effects of masturbation, I found out when a friend of mine told me about this which scared me to death. He gave me a pamphlet which said that ever masturbation will cause these problem and you will not be able to satisfy your wife and hence it will cause your marriage to break. At this i was scared to hill because i used to masturbate. When i went home and i thought about girl and thought about checking myself ( even though i was scared because i did have that problem what would i do?). I check the tip of my penis scarily and i noticed that i was leaking. Then when i had looked at my penis, it had also shrunk in the base. Eventually everything that was their in the pamphlet came out true for me. So in my case it was ignorance and lake of sex education. Secondly since i never had any sexual activity with any one i did not know much about it. Hence i would the big culprit in this case is ignorance. You are doing something and you do not know its effect because either you just enjoy it and no one else informs you about that. No one ever told me a single word about sex because our society ( Pakistan ) is not that much open. Parent never talk to their children about sex and they are very easy victims of this kind of problems. So you better talk to your parents or try yourself to get some knowledge about it.

Now the harmful effects of masturbation are not just restricted to those physical problems that i have discussed. It also effects memory. It will also effect your social behavior because you would tend to be isolated and lonely. Eventually if you fall into all this problems there will be a new kind of world for you, which will not be a reality. Your world will be full of frustration. All you will think about is that you are not enough for a girl and you will never be married. I have been through all this and I do not want anyone to go in that direction. It is better to educate yourself about it.

Lastly if you masturbate do not think that you will get weak and lean ( slim). Infect you will look perfectly alright. You could get lean and weak if you have some other personnel problems that you are worried about. But bear in mind that masturbation alone will not make you lean and weak. And since you are in puberty which is the period you are full with energy, you will never notice these things. The best you can do is try to stop masturbation. This will be extremely good for you older life and for your sex life after marriage.
This question my not be important to every you if you have just attended puberty. But this is important in a sense that if you are aware of the facts you will be more caution in your future. Yes masturbation can be harmful to your health. Now when i say health, i am not discussing your health from the point of view that you will become meager and slim so that every one will guess you have masturbation. Infect you will appear pretty much ok. However internally you will ge getting weak. It also has diverse effect your memory.
If it is harmful to body, in which way it is harmful?
Due to excessive masturbation, your penis becomes weak. It starts to leak semen whenever you think of a girl. If you start copulating with a girl you will discharge so quickly that it will not be acceptable to the girl. You will not able to enjoy your sex life because you would not be able to hold yourself during sex. You will try to find some means so that you do not ejaculate. Masturbation affects your penis size also. Your penis becomes narrow at the base. It becomes much softer. It looses its hardness. Its size diminishes and so does its erection. It is a great handicap for many men. The lower back of your body becomes weak also. You are not able to stand for a longer time. Your legs are weakened like wise. You feel pain in your legs, if you stand or play for a longer period of time. Your stamina is decreased.

Does masturbation has any effect on brain also?

Denise: Yes. Although not directly. It does affect your brain in one way or another. For example it decreases your memory power. You seem to forget things that you should remember. You become uncertain about many things. You can’t remember dates and events exactly. You are not sure weather you have locked the door or not. You mind becomes a sort of uncertain. You think that you can not marry. It devastates your life.
Does masturbation has any other bad effect besides these?
Yes, the points I just mentioned is only the beginning. After you are inflicted with these problems, an problem starts: how to cope with this issue. You think that you are not enough for a girl ( you can not satisfy a girl sexually), you start to stay away from girls but it doesn’t solve your problems because they are meant for you. You want to talk to a girl but you can’t talk. You can’t express yourself. You are coping with this issue only on your own, hoping that someday i will get fine and be able to marry happily. You think that even if you marry your wife will get divorce from you or she will not care about me because you will be no good to her. All these thinking in mind decreases your efficiency a gret deal. You are not able to concentrate on your studies as a result you do not get enough marks. You end going to a poor university. Your career is greatly affected. You are entangled in problem after problem while the actual problems remain steadfast on it’s place.

I want to masturbate badly what shall i do?

Greg: If you want to masturbate badly, you can masturbate. Infect it is better to masturbate. It keeps you away from committing a bigger sin. Masturbation is a healthy thing if you do it only to satisfy your needs and do not make it your habit. But the fact is can be your habit.
How often can a man masturbate?
Some masturbate every day some twice every day, some once every weak and some once every month. The real frequency of masturbation various from person to person. However if you masturbate twice a day, this is too much and can put you in severe problems. Also refer to

Does masturbation affects the penis size?

Tony: When i started masturbation i thought it was increasing my penis size. But i never heard of it from any one else. It doesn’t increase or decrease the penis size, I think. The fact that you penis grows at a rapid speed in your early teen years may think you that way.

Does masturbation effects height?

Mikashi: This question can arise among teenagers because they grow during this period rapidly. There is not good proof that masturbation affects the height of a person and masturbation by itself does not affect the height at all. However when you take a cold bath and you masturbate, the combination of hot and cold can make your growth slow. You body gets hot during masturbation while the cold water makes it cool.I would say one should avoid this.

Is masturbation leading to erectile dysfunction ?
Ravi: Yes…I am 24 year old male. I used to masturbate once daily for the past 8 years. Now i think i acquired impotence (i cant get erections without stimulation and they are weak). I learnt from some site on the net that it is due excessive masturbation. But I am getting nocturnal erections (aka Nocturnal Tumenescience) therefore I think it is psychological impotence rather physical ( I need more clarification on that). Is there any chance if my condition would improve.

Comment below with your personal masturbation experiences and its effects on your health and your emotional quotient.

Early Pregnancy ? Pregnancy Symptoms ? – Now Detect Pregnancy By Yourself

Pregnancy calls for one of the most beautiful phase in a woman’s life being accompanied by each early pregnancy symptom. These pregnancy symptoms have always been a source of joy as well as often anxieties. Many women are unaware of early pregnancy symptoms and what development each symptom indicates. Moreover, to start planning for a family with your new baby, you must be knowledgeable about pregnancy symptoms and to what extent they are normal. If you observe the signs of pregnancy to increase and decrease abnormally, you must consult with your physician.

Therefore, pregnant women need to be familiar with all the probable early pregnancy symptoms. She also needs to know the difference between pregnancy and non-pregnancy symptoms. The period, intensity and the sequence of arrival of pregnancy symptoms largely vary from one woman to another. So, before you start fretting over absence of a particular symptom that your friend or sister might have undergone at your stage, get facts on each early pregnancy symptom from this article.

How Your Body Tells That You Are Pregnant

pregnantwomen-healthpad.infoDuring pregnancy, women undergo many changes. Drastic hormonal changes in body are because of the physical and psychological changes a woman undergoes during pregnancy. This hormonal change takes place to support the development of the fetus inside. All women tend to experience some common symptoms in the early trimester of the pregnancy period. Each early pregnancy symptom appears in the same manner, but slight differences can be expected. Now let us discuss about pregnancy symptoms and how to identify them –

Implantation Bleeding

Implantation bleeding is also known as vaginal spotting. This is a very common early pregnancy symptom and takes place when the fertilized egg gets attached to uterus walls. In following ways you will get to differentiate implantation bleeding from common vaginal bleeding -

  • It appears approximately five days after fertilization
  • Color of this vaginal discharge appears to be light unlike dark bleeding of menstruation.
  • An increase in discharge will also signal you about pregnancy.
  • Many women also experience slight cramping pain during implantation bleeding.
  • If you happen to experience similar symptoms within a week of conceiving, consider a home pregnancy test to confirm your pregnancy.

Frequent Urination

Increased frequency in urination is a significant early pregnancy symptom. Stretch in ligaments and hormonal changes may lead pregnant women rush to loo. As your uterus enlarges to accommodate development of the fetus, it starts occupying spaces of bladder and pushes it, which is why you may feel a surge of urine now and then.

Tender, Sore Breasts

Another very important early pregnancy symptom is tenderness and painful breasts. After conceiving, you will notice your breasts to enlarge accompanied by a feeling of tenderness due to the hormonal changes in body.

High Temperature

If you notice that your basal body temperature is increasing after conception, then you know you are pregnant. When your body temperature remains high for a number of days even if you are not having menstruation, it is an early pregnancy symptom.

Missed Periods

A missed period id considered one of the surest pregnancy symptoms to be felt at the earliest stage. However, it may arrive before or after any other early pregnancy symptom and extensively vary in women.

Fatigue and Weakness

sexypregnantlady-healthpad.infoPregnancy brings enormous feeling of exhaustion. When you tend to feel fatigue and dizziness with any other symptom, you need to contact an expert. As per medical experts, fainting is a common early pregnancy symptom. Along with exhaustion, you might feel sickness in different time of the day with discomforts of nausea. Though pregnant women may feel at any time or throughout the day, this early pregnancy symptom is known as ‘morning sickness’.

Before you consult your gynecologist, you need to prepare a proper and detailed pregnancy journal mentioning each early pregnancy symptom to help him or her detect pregnancy accurately.

An early pregnancy symptoms, while on one hand brings joy it breeds anxiety too. However, mere presence of pregnancy symptoms does not confirm pregnancy. Therefore, when you start witnessing signs of pregnancy, maintain a pregnancy journal and visit you doctor for a pregnancy test and for further instructions. Early Pregnancy Symptom has more information on signs to detect early pregnancy.

Are You Pregnant ? How To Test and Detect ?

If you and your partner are trying to conceive, one of the hardest parts is the waiting. The infamous two week wait is enough to frustrate even the most patient woman. The question thus arises, do you need to wait two weeks? With advances in technology it is now possible to detect pregnancy from the convenience of your own home before you have even missed your period. How early you can test depends on the type of test you are using.
How pregnancy tests work

Whether you are having a blood test done in a lab or using a urine test as home, the both work by detecting the hormone hCG. There are several types of tests done in the lab that can detect hCG. Many doctors use the same type of test as the kits used in home pregnancy tests. These tests work by using a substance that changes color once it is bound to hCG. Blood tests can be used to determine the exact amount of hCG being produced by the woman whereas urine tests are limited to determining whether or not hCG is present at a high enough level to confirm pregnancy. A pregnancy test is considered positive if the hCG level is 5 mIU/L or above.
What is hCG and when will I begin producing it?

To understand how pregnancy tests work it is helpful to know what hCG is and the basics of early fetal development. HCG, or human chorionic gonadotropin, is produced very early in pregnancy and serves several functions to support the developing baby including stimulating progesterone and estrogen production.

As pregnancy begins, your baby goes through many phases of development. A woman’s egg and man’s sperm unite on fertilization to form what is technically now called a zygote. The zygote goes through rapid division eventually forming an outer layer called a trophoblast. The trophoblast will begin secreting hCG during early pregnancy. This does not occur until your baby implants into the uterus. Ovulation and fertilization typically occur midway through a woman’s menstrual cycle, usually around 14 days after the start of menses. If fertilization occurs, the zygote will travel down the fallopian tube towards the uterine cavity. Around seven to nine days after fertilization, your baby will implant deep into the uterine wall. Your body will not begin producing hCG until then. Once your body has begun producing hCG you should be able to determine pregnancy through a home pregnancy test.
When is the earliest you can take a pregnancy test?

Newer home pregnancy tests detect very small amounts of hCG, some as low as 5 mIU/L. With these very sensitive tests, it is possible to test positive as early as seven days past ovulation. It is important to remember that implantation occurs anywhere from seven to ten days past ovulation and women produce varying amounts of hCG, eventually forming a pattern of doubling hCG amounts every two to three days. While it is possible to test positive as early as seven days past ovulation, there is also a good chance that implantation has not occurred yet or that you are not producing hCG at a high enough level to be detected by a home pregnancy test. For best results, it is still recommended to wait until a woman has missed her period or 14 days past ovulation. For those that just can’t wait, the very earliest you should test is seven days past ovulation.

How to Seduce Strangers For Healthy Sex

Every men has fantasy of hooking with stranger women;  young or old – places like office, library, bus, train, party hub, bar, conference and more.

One of the biggest mysteries for every man is how to seduce a stranger. Many men believe that women aren’t just women. They feel like we have to know each of them intimately in order to push their buttons. The fact of the matter is that you don’t. You can use the following tools to help seduce a stranger.

Hooking With Strangers in Bar

Hooking With Strangers in Bar

Always give the stranger your name before they can give you their name. Normally you would only give your name out if the woman asked for. This is great way to tell if she’s interested in you. However, since you are taking the chance and approaching her cold, it’s best to introduce yourself first. When you’re trying to seduce a stranger, you want her to feel comfortable in her environment.

Don’t play grab ass. When you first try to seduce a stranger, you are a stranger to them also. Don’t touch them until they touch you first. This could be a slight brush of the leg or a pat on the shoulder.

Tell her why you came over. Playing a game with her and trying to drop hints with metaphors is never going to work on a stranger. You want her to know why you came over to her. This is essential seducing a stranger because it conveys your confidence.

Anticipate Horny Sexy Lady

Anticipating Mood of Sexy Woman !

Determine her status. Making an ass out of yourself for no reason is never good. You need to see if she’s single. If she tells you that she has a boyfriend, retreat immediately. She’s not playing hard to get. She’s saying leave me alone.

Don’t run game. You don’t want it to seem like you’re running some kind of routine on her. Seducing a stranger is all about improvisation. Have a little fun, but stay on task.

Expect rejection but don’t show it. A lot of women do not feel comfortable with being approached by a stranger, but some really get off on it. If you plan on getting rejected you can have a plan in place for when she lies about a boyfriend.

Seducing a stranger is not easy, but it can get easier over time. Follow these rules and you’ll definitely see a difference in the way that women react to your approaches.

Interactive Movements

Technique #1: Open Posture
In uncomfortable situations it is typical to keep to oneself. One way this manifests itself is through our posture. When we’re uncomfortable often we’ll cross our arms, touch our face or cross our legs while standing. Perhaps it makes us feel more secure. However, the impression this can give off is very negative. When we cross our arms we give off the impression that we’re defensive, combative, displeased and not ready to talk to anyone. In order to become approachable it is important to adopt an open posture. When trying to pick up chicks, make sure that your arms are by your sides or in you lap and that you are not touching your face. Make sure to avoid crossing your arms and legs.

If You 're Lucky, You Get Them in Odd Places Like Library

If You 're Lucky, You Get Them in Odd Places Like Library

Technique #2: Smile
Now that you’ve got your posture down and are no longer closing yourself off to others lets add a smile. Nothing welcomes a stranger more than a smile. If someone catches your eye and you show them a smile they will think “Hey, here is someone who isn’t going to rip me to shreds if I go up and approach him.” A smile shows strangers that you want to be friendly. Nothing is more attractive on a man or woman than a smile. So don’t forget to smile, soon it will come naturally!

Technique #3: Sit Tall
When you’re talking to someone sit up and keep straight. This shows that you’re interested in what they’re saying. If you’re sitting back and slouching it shows that you’re not giving the person your full attention and that you are getting bored with what they’re saying. It may be more comfortable and you may be tired, but you’re telling the person that what they’re saying is not important enough to require your full attention. It is a major turn off and people may think you’re arrogant.

Technique #4: Shake Hands
Don’t wait for others to shake hands and introduce themselves, take the initiative. It is important to take the initiative, because if you don’t the other person may be shy and then you run the risk of not being introduced. Then you become reluctant to start talking with the person and you can end up sitting in awkward silence. By shaking hands and introducing yourself with something like “Hi, I’m John Smith. It’s nice to meet you.” You are making a connection with the person and making yourself approachable. The handshake is a non-aggressive way for men to “connect” with women.

Sense feelings of the girl leaning to you

Sense feelings of the girl leaning to you

Technique #5: Eye Contact
Girls love to look into a guys eyes, so be sure to let them! (They think the eyes are a gateway into the soul or some mumbo jumbo like that.). Maintaining eye contact when talking shows that you’re interested and paying attention to what they’re saying. Nothing is more attractive to a woman. DO NOT stare at their body or breasts no matter what when they are talking. Also, when making eye contact with a stranger across the room, make sure not to stare at them. Give them a look that acknowledges them long enough to make a connection and then go back to what you were doing. Don’t just immediately look away once they look at you. This is instinctive, so it takes a while to overcome. Practice makes perfect! A cool rule is the “45 second rule” Once you make eye contact with a girl, if she looks back at you after 45 seconds you’ve got their interest. Go up and introduce yourself. If you don’t maintain eye contact with a girl while dancing or talking you will find her excusing herself after a while.

So there you have it. Five ways to make yourself approachable. Let’s put it all together. You’re at a gathering of friends. Make sure to use an OPEN POSTURE and SMILE. When given the first opportunity SHAKE HANDS and introduce yourself giving you name. (Make sure to remember *their* name). When you sit down be sure to SIT STRAIGHT UP and be attentive. Finally, when talking be sure to MAINTAIN EYE CONTACT to show that you’re interested in what the other person is saying. Follow these five rules and you should have no trouble finding girls to talk with and they’ll think you’re a genuinely attractive guy.

Tips on Oral Sex – Art of Giving Good Head – Seduce Your Partner With Stunning Oral Treats

Oh, now where to begin with this one. I can’t say that I’ve ever met a man who didn’t like to have his penis sucked on. As a matter of fact that would probably rate as the biggest turn on if men had to pick just one aspect of sex as their favorite. At least that’s my take on the subject.

Fellatio on your partner is supposedly one of the biggest sexual turn on known to mankind. I know that when I’m in the mood for sucking penis that I thoroughly enjoy it. Times like that it isn’t important if my partner reciprocates or not, because I’m lost in making him feel good. At other times it is a nice prelude to intercourse when you exchange oral sex with your partner. When I suck on my partner’s penis we’ve found that he can usually last a lot longer when it comes to the actual intercourse, which is really awesome!. When you suck his penis, you make him feel special, as per my experience, I have heard them say they feel like a king enjoying service of a mistress whom they can control. It depends on my mood sometimes I insist on reciprocation otherwise I worship his penis readily.

Penis Sucking Has Fun of Its Own

Its Not Why You Should Do It ...Its How

First off, you need to take a look at your partner’s penis. One of the first things you will notice is whether or not he is circumcised. This may make for subtle differences when you are sucking on your partner’s penis, as when they are uncircumcised the handling of the penis is a little bit different. Penis’s come in a variety of shapes and sizes. Unless you a size queen the length and girth of your partner’s penis should not be an issue. The average male penis size is in the five to six inch range when erect and the average girth when erect is about five inches. Sucking penis bigger than 8 inches is a task of expert sucker like me. You should start by smaller sizes. After all its not your satisfaction alone, its seducing your partner effectively. You get prized with mouthful of orgasmic juice at the end of it.

Run your fingers up and down the length of his penis as you examine it. You will find that he doesn’t remain soft for very long. Feel the texture of the skin that covers the ball sac. You will also notice that at different times the ball sac can become quite heavy and the skin over it quite tight. At other times it will be very loose and feel much lighter.

Deep Penis Sucking Is Seductive

Imagine Tastier Things You Like

Tease your partner. Lick his balls and the insides of his thighs but stay away from actually touching his penis. Make him squirm a little first. When you first start out take your time and use slow deliberate strokes and cover the whole length of his penis. In my experience sucking on my partners penis isn’t enough to get him off, there also needs to be plenty of hand action on his penis as well as on his balls. The two work very well together. Lubrication is a good idea. It wouldn’t be a good thing to all of a sudden have your hand stuck to your partners penis because there’s no lubrication. The best lubrication I’ve found comes just from using your saliva. Instead of swallowing all the saliva just let it dribble down onto your hand and his penis. It keeps everything fairly well lubricated.


There are many positions from which you can give your partner fellatio. I’m going to list some of the ones that have worked well for my partner and myself. There is no right or wrong way to position yourself, your best bet is to experiment with different positions and see what works best for you and your partner. Experimentation is half the fun.

Kneeling – in this situation have your partner either stand or perhaps sit on the edge of the bed or couch or chair (whatever works for you) and then you kneel between his feet and give the fellatio from that angle. One drawback to this is that I find that my knees really can’t take this position for extended periods of time.

69 – this is always a favorite for most people. You can give and receive in this position; you just have to remember to concentrate on what you’re doing for your partner. This can sometimes be a very difficult task to say the least. I prefer to be on top so that I have a little more control of my partner’s penis and what I’m trying to do with it.

Side by side – you can lay down alongside your partner in either direction. Have your partner lay partially on his side so that you can reach his penis as well as his balls.

Over top – by over top I mean have your partner lay down on the bed flat on his back, you kneel beside him on either the right or the left side and then put your head down over his penis and pubic area from that angle.

Tongue Techniques

This portion of the tutorial will deal with some of the various techniques that you can use to bring your partner great pleasure and have him moaning for more. Trust me, they always want more!

To start you might want to just lick your partner’s penis all over, from top to bottom feeling the texture of it, supplying moisture to the area. Just little licks here and there. Don’t forget the balls, they play a very important part in the overall stimulation of your partner. They are definitely part of the package and should have lots of attention lavished on them.

Now you can move on to another technique that works rather well. Take your partner’s penis in your mouth and close down your lips around the head of the penis. Don’t take too much into your mouth at this time. Then take your tongue and swirl it over the tip of his penis. You can apply a little bit of pressure with your mouth and release while you are doing this. It’s also been said that if you hum while sucking on your partner’s penis that the vibration will add to the stimulation.

By sliding your mouth back from the previous technique you can then suckle the tip of his penis and use varying amounts of pressure. Be sure to pay attention to your partner’s reaction. The object isn’t to cause your partner any pain, unless of course they are into it, which is a completely different tutorial. You can add a bit of variety to this technique by making a point of your tongue and running it around the edge of the penis where the shaft meets the head. This area is fairly sensitive in most men and is sure to get a reaction.

Pretend that your partner’s penis is a big lollipop or an all day sucker and then proceed to lick it in the same fashion. This can be great fun to try. If you’d like to add extra enjoyment use a small amount of flavored lube or even put whipped cream on his penis to lick off or make a giant banana split out of him. It’s great fun to lick it all off and make sure that you don’t miss any spots.

You should know closely about penis so that you know the banana that you are teasing with – has certain cool details attached to it

An interesting way to stimulate your partner’s penis is to hold it in your mouth (similar to when you see people holding a rose in their teeth) and run your mouth and tongue up and down the full length of it. You could do this for several strokes and then dip down to lick the balls or at the top slide the tip of the penis into your mouth.

To Swallow or Not

To swallow or not? The answer to this question is based solely on personal preference of both the partners. Some women love to swallow and others don’t. Some men love for their partner to swallow their sperm while others would prefer to see it spray all over the place – mostly on their partner.

Taste is an issue when it comes to swallowing, many women simply don’t like the taste of their partners sperm. There appears to be some information that indicates that the taste of sperm can be influenced by your partners diet. You and your partner can experiment with omitting various foods from your diet to see if they make a difference to the taste of the sperm. There are several foods that are reputed to sweeten the taste of sperm; they include parsley, papaya, pineapple juice, and bananas. Red meat has the reputation of making the sperm taste more acidic. Last but not least are coffee and alcohol, both of which are reputed to cause a bitter taste in the sperm.

Swallowing – most men tend to get off on their partner swallowing their sperm. You’ll want to be careful with this one so that you can do it in a manner that doesn’t make you gag. There’s nothing more unromantic than your partner hearing you sound as though you’re hacking up some huge fur ball. Trust me, this does happen and tends to kind of interrupt the moment. My partner and I had this happen the other day as a matter of fact and we both dissolved in laughter, it was very amusing. I’m just glad that there was no videotape running to catch that live! Although I am sure that with a new partner this might not be quite so amusing.

One thing to remember is that once your partner has sperm and you’ve either swallowed or not, don’t let go of his penis and think you’re done, keep sucking lightly on the tip of it as it’s usually really sensitive after spermflow. You can watch him squirm and moan quite nicely.

You should share your experiences  or what you liked most about the article or any queries you have in the comments section freely, whether you are straight or bi. Thanks for reading.

-nancy cloe

Feel Her Emotionally Closer When She Sucks

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